Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening. Lisa M. Hayes
I talk to myself all the time. In the house, in the car, at work when I think no one can hear, on a sidewalk with my dogs in tow. It can get quite interesting what I say.
Some of my thoughts amount to venting. Clearly, however, I am processing information at a fast rate, trying to make sense of it, reconciling a wrong by another or myself, trying to find a path that brings me to a sense of peace or helps to resolve a conflict. Other talk is towards me – words that suggest I am a fool, or stupid. I think: why can’t I get it together or why didn’t I see that one coming? The list goes on.
The chatter is endless, during the day, as I dose off, when I awake. If I give it power, it rules me. Sometimes I imagine a giant cancel stamp, squelching the especially negative thought, but it takes a mighty effort to do so.
I’m pretty convinced we all deal with anxiety on a daily basis and the fear that if we are found out, “they” will discover how flawed we are. At least that is what runs through my head. I won’t tell if you don’t tell, goes the scenario. Of course, we don’t know “they” are thinking the same of us.
But back to the possibility of this conversation and all the others that feed into it. For one, we need to speak about ourselves and others with kindness. We need to consider that the chatter fluttering through our head and theirs is better served by a positive spin. How we frame our day guides our steps. We can go down the deep hole that suggests we are not worthy, but what does it serve?
So, when we are thinking about the day, let us consider self-talk that tells us we deserve the very best. Let’s not be mindless but rather intentional on how we speak to others and ourselves.
You are smart, beautiful and talented! Well said.
Lesley Mills says
Hi, Kris! Thank you so much for your comment and for visiting the garden! We miss you!
Leah Singer says
I’ve missed your posts. I find myself engaging in self-talk too, but mine is typically internal and I’ve noticed it typically comes out during certain situations or anxieties/insecurities I have. I’ve found it helpful to identify the triggers in order to deal with the talk. And I think our dogs know our self-talk better than we do. 🙂
Lesley Mills says
Thanks, Leah! When I see how good you are about making regular posts on Leah’s Thoughts, I am reminded how important it is! Yes, my dogs know my self-talk, for sure! Thanks for visiting Merlin’s Garden!